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Browse our editors' picks for the best books of the month in fiction, nonfiction, The Highly Sensitive Person's Workbook by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D. Paperback. Editorial Reviews. ppti.info Review. Are you an HSP? Are you easily overwhelmed by According to author Elaine Aron (herself an HSP), sensitive people have the 'This remarkable book speaks clearly to highly sensitive people. The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D. () Paperback on Used books may not include companion materials, may have some shelf wear.

You have to be extremely careful about the latter. And an over sensitive person reacts with arousal to any kind of stress. Different types of stimulation: External stimulation social activity, performing a task, being on a roller coaster etc. Internal stimulation intensive thoughts, hunger, pain etc.

Stimulation in your control Stimulation out of your control Emotional stimulation Subtle stimulation Stress as stimulation Let me give you a practical example from my own life of how complicated all the stimuli can become. When I enter a room of known people, I never engage with them with ease. I first sense what kind of a mood every individual is in. I assess who is talking to whom and why, and what all the potential topics could be.

I grasp the vibes in the air, I notice if there were any changes made to the room, and so on. Only when I understand in detail and on a very subtle level what is happening with energies, words and actions in the room, can I properly engage. I calculate all the possible ways to engage in the smoothest way possible. I need to first understand, and then I can act.

I can easily take in vibes that are in the air, and if things are really out of the ordinary I might have trouble engaging at all. Two different types of highly sensitive people There are two systems in your brain. Behavioral activation takes in the information from the senses and gives orders to the limbs to get moving. The purpose of this system is to move you forwards, especially towards new things food, new alliances etc. When this system is active you are curious, bold and impulsive.

Behavioral inhibition, on the other hand, moves you away from things and makes you attentive to danger. This part of your brain makes you alert, cautious and watchful for signs; it compares the current situation to what had been normal in the past and what should be expected in the future. If there are deviations, behavioral inhibition makes you stop and understand the situation first.

Highly sensitive people have a much stronger behavioral inhibition system. But there can be two versions: Weak activation system and average inhibition strength — These people are usually calm, quiet and like a simple life.

They are usually advisors or monk type of people. Strong activation and inhibition system — These are people who are curious and cautious, bold and anxious, easily bored and aroused. There is a constant struggle between the advisor and warrior within. The environment of a highly sensitive person matters a lot Being a highly sensitive person is an inherited trait. But every inherited trait can be enhanced, decreased, woken up or eliminated by repeating life experiences or a subject functioning in a specific environment.

For highly sensitive people, bad environments can make things much worse. Life starts to seem frightening, the caution system gets even stronger, and all the negative experiences seem even more traumatic.

Statistically, almost all depressed and anxious sensitive people had a troubled childhood. That leads to a huge level of stress, damaged health, complete inhibition, different kinds of mental problems, severe negative thoughts , low self-esteem, and issues like Complex PTSD.

Highly sensitive children need to be understood and not to additionally deal with special problems caused by inadequate parents — underprotective or overprotective ones. If you had a troubled childhood, you have to reframe it in a positive situation and use other psychological tools to make peace with it. More about that in the rest of the article. If you have a highly sensitive child, you need to become an especially understandable and encouraging caretaker.

The same author wrote a book dedicated to over sensitive children that you should absolutely read. Why you are special as a highly sensitive person Every personality trait is a neutral one. Being highly sensitive is no exception to that. You were born to be among advisors and thinkers, the spiritual and moral leaders of your society.

There is every reason for pride. Aron Possessing strong intuition and creativity As a highly sensitive person, you have very strong intuition. You have a very strong sixth sense and you often know just how things will probably turn out. As a highly sensitive person, you are the one who sees possibilities and who can come up with new solutions that all of humanity can benefit from. Being an outstanding advisor who minds the whole society Highly sensitive people are usually known as outstanding advisors.

They often also take up roles of theologians, therapists, teachers or consultants. The key thing is that as a highly sensitive person, you usually mind the future of everyone involved and the whole society. You think about all the possible effects of an idea or action.

The Highly Sensitive Person

The downsides of being a highly sensitive person Much like there are positive sides to being a highly sensitive person, there are also the downsides you have to learn how to manage and live with. Being over sensitive is not something to fear, but something you only have to learn how to manage. You have to organize your life around this personality trait, maintain an optimal life of arousal, and put yourself out there in the world. By isolating, things only get worse The logical reaction of highly sensitive people is to withdraw — isolate, avoid new things etc.

But that leads to a negative spiral. The more you avoid things, the more everything becomes new. The more you hide, the more frightening everything seems.

If you expose yourself to moderate amounts of stress regularly, you learn to live and manage stressors better. The more you go out into the world, the more you know what you like, dislike and how to handle certain situations.

The only way to start enjoying life is to be out there with people doing things. General directions for managing your hypersensitivity The main point of knowing about over sensitive personality types is that you learn how to manage your hyper sensitivity. First of all, you must find just the right amount of stimuli for you to optimize your performance in everyday life.

Every highly sensitive person has to find the right spot for themselves. Finding the right spot includes getting enough sleep.

Going to bed early and getting enough sleep should be your number one priority. Mixed shifts and jet lags can have a bigger negative influence on your daily rhythm than they do on other people; keep that in mind when planning.

You can also greatly benefit from active rest, like prayer, meditation or contemplation. When you have a problem doing that, you can use the reframing technique to focus on positive angles in a situation.

Never forget what you are getting out of this personality trait, and focus on the positives. Many other techniques to manage your mind can also help you when you become over aroused — learning to love over arousal and particular situations you have to cope with daily, witnessing your over arousal looking at yourself from the 3rd person perspective , repeating a specific mantra, emotional accounting, writing a self-reflective journal, using transformational vocabulary, and so on.

When you know yourself well , there are many ways you can manage your over sensitivity better. Highly sensitive people can benefit a lot from having a place to escape ; not to isolate themselves in the long term, but only to refresh, recharge and then get back into the world.

Equally important to having containers is setting strict boundaries for highly sensitive people — with themselves and especially with other people.

Always remember: highly sensitive or not, boundaries are your right, responsibility and greatest source of dignity, so you have to learn how to set strict boundaries.

You can achieve that only by setting strict boundaries. But when setting boundaries, you should watch for any extremes, like merging with others or shutting everyone out.

The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You

Shyness is something that anyone can feel. It can be learned and unlearned. High sensitivity is not learned but inherited. Calling yourself shy is damaging, inaccurate, negative and self-fulfilling.

The explanation of why you are so damn sensitive

At this point, it makes sense to emphasize that highly sensitive people can be extroverts or introverts. As a highly sensitive person, you can be shy or not if you are, you can unlearn it As a highly sensitive person, you can be extroverted or introverted if you are the latter, you have to read this guide Highly sensitive people in business and career life The big advantages of highly sensitive people in the business world is that they are most often very curious , intuitive, inventive and operate on high levels of energy.

They care and are devoted to a cause. But they can also be impulsive, introverted and emotionally sensitive. They most often have a great need for independence and are real nonconformists. Selling, managing complaints and charging for services are often big challenges for highly sensitive people.

As a highly sensitive person, you might always have a feeling that you are charging too much, you have trouble selling products, yourself and your ideas, and it can be quite painful to make any complaints. You need to sell yourself, your ideas or products from time to time; there is no other way. The point is not that you become Machiavellian, but that you learn not to be exploited by others.

The more you deny the Machiavellian part of yourself, the more it can grow in terms of negative feelings of being abused. And when you are choosing vocation, it makes sense to go for something practical and not to be supported by others family, social funds etc.

It often happens that you have many different inner voices fighting where to go next, and that may lead to needing more time to choose the right career path. I would have preferred this if it had been geared at informing and not at fixing the way we think about sensitivity.

Understanding something leads to changing our concept, and telling a large group of variable people how to change something is just not helpful. I also thought she was basing too much of it on how she is, as a sensitive person. It would have been beneficial if she would have talked about her own experience so that there was some context in the form of a caveat about how the information would apply to us. More research and less personal experience would have added credibility.

Jan 30, Sarah rated it did not like it Shelves: If I hadn't read Quiet before reading this book, I may have given it 2 or 3 stars instead. There were a few helpful discussions of sensitivity and the differences between sensitive and non-sensitive people, but overall..

The author sounds very stuck in her way of thinking, and the style of writing was very grating. Everything was about childhood trauma except for the excerpt that said it wasn't all abo Quiet: Everything was about childhood trauma except for the excerpt that said it wasn't all about childhood trauma, really There was a whole lot of shock factor -- she would start talking about a client, then all of a sudden drop "sexual abuse" all over the description and talk about childhood trauma.

In one case, she talked about a former classmate who was teased, but who was getting better and moving on, and then -- bam! I have no tolerance for this kind of writing.

Especially since this is in a book about highly sensitive people, you'd think she would know better than to pull that. Don't recommend.

If you want to know about introversion and sensitivity, Quiet is a much better and more helpful book. View all 5 comments. I actually found this book to be very helpful. Highly sensitive people share many of the same attributes: They are typically highly intelligent, very creative, compassionat I actually found this book to be very helpful.

They are typically highly intelligent, very creative, compassionate, spiritual, and are deeply affected by the arts. They are sensitive many things both internally and externally that most in the general population overlook, such as slight changes in a room, and the moods of others. They are also very easily over-aroused by various forms of external stimuli excess noise, chaos, too many people, bright lights, etc often needing to retreat from the stimuli in order to regain their sanity.

In fact the majority of the book centers on coping with over-arousal, the HSP Achilles' heel. HSP's tend to fall in love hard and form strong attachments to certain individuals, and are significantly affected by traumatic events in their childhoods.

Other hallmark traits of HSP's are that they form very close friendships, often have problematic relationships with doctors who, in order to survive med school, tend to not relate to the highly sensitive , are valued in their vocation for integrity and work ethic, but are not good self-promoters. They often don't do well with transition and change. These extremely sensitive individuals are not "flawed," as our non-HSP counterparts may lead us to believe personally, although my sensitivity has challenged me, I don't share the author's defensive viewpoint that I am under-valued because of it.

According to the author, Western and Indo-European societies tend to under-value many HSP attributes such as introversion, but HSP's are actually important contributors to a balanced civilization, acting as the advisors, judges, and spiritual leaders to the population majority's "warrior king" tendency to fearlessly expand and conquer.

The HSP tendency to "pause and check" is the cautious counterpoint that keeps civilizations in tact. I highly recommend this book for anyone who thinks they fall under the category of a highly sensitive person.

I picked it up because it was recommended to me and although I was a little skeptical because it was one author's research and perspective, I was floored by how much of what she described fit my personality completely - in fact, not only me, but a few of my family members as well extreme sensitivity is an inherited genetic trait. Aron writes in a manner that helps the HSP not only to cope with, but to celebrate their unique qualities. Society needs a select group of individuals who are creative, docile, and spiritually in tune to effectively function.

In some cultures such as China, the HSP personality is the most highly-valued.

I found the chapters on physical treatment particularly helpful medications such as SSRI's or anti-anxiety meds may be helpful for HSP's both in the short or long term, but aren't necessarily a good fit for everyone. It should also be pointed out that some of her conclusions about SSRI's may be outdated as more research has been done since this book's publication in ' My favorite chapter was the final chapter, which focuses on the HSP's tie to the spiritual realm.

It was actually very practical, citing examples about how HSP's, religious and non- religious alike, tend to look inward and seek for explanations beyond what can be explained by science. Aug 16, Salma rated it did not like it. View all 30 comments. Mar 04, Cindy rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: Those learning about people.

Ever wonder why some people perceive almost everything while others seem oblivious? Ever wonder why some folks seem overwhelmed at times while others see to manage through those markets and crowds without a care?

Ever wonder why some are told they are just too sensitive, which makes them distance themselves from others? Have you ever thought you were weird because you couldn't stand to watch movies or read books with a lot of violence in them while other people seemed to love that stuff?

Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed from being around a lot of noise, strong scents, or bright lights, especially florescent lights? Have you ever been called "too sensitive" or "too shy? Are you particularly sensitive to changes in temperature, body language, and your surroundings? Do other people's moods affect you?

If so, you might be highly sensitive. No, this is not one of those self-help books written by a quack who is going to try to convince you to eliminate all forms of stress, including family, a job, and bills from your life in order to nourish your soul. But it is a book that will change your life if you think you might be highly sensitive.

I know, it sounds silly, but I'm telling you, as soon as I sat down to read this book, I felt like someone finally understood all of the little quirks about me that other people have always thought were weird but have always just been part of who I am. I even talked to a few of my friends who I think might be highly sensitive, and they felt the same way. I decided to read this after Anne from Modern Mrs.

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I remember the blog post distinctly because it was the first time I had ever heard anyone else mention the topic of people who tend to "screen" books with violent content because they prefer to avoid any type of entertainment with it. As someone who has always avoided books, movies and TV shows with violence as well as scary movies in general, this caught my attention.

I always thought that my tendency to avoid scary movies was due to my overactive imagination that caused me to have frequent and vivid nightmares after watching these types of movies, which is in part true, but this is also a sign that you might be highly sensitive. Aron, a licensed psychiatrist, takes readers on a journey through the mind of a highly sensitive person. If you yourself are highly sensitive, you'll learn more about how your mind and body work. You'll learn how to view yourself as someone who is unique and ultimately needed in the universe.

I particularly liked Aron's notes on the idea of a warrior-king type of personality and the idea of a more sensitive advisor type of personality and the benefits to society of both. I appreciated that while Aron encourages neither type of personality to view theirs as superior, each does have its own advantages. For example, as a sensitive person, you might be considered shy, sometimes aloof, or even arrogant, since you tend to keep to yourself and find it hard to make friends.

You tend to avoid social engagements with a large number of people and lots of noise and sounds, so people sometimes might think of you as a party pooper.

But on the flip side, sensitive people are also the most compassionate, the most intuitive, and the most creative of all personality types. If you find yourself reading this book and realizing you are more than likely a highly sensitive person, you'll begin to look at past events in your life with a new understanding, perhaps even realizing why you reacted to certain things and people the way you did.

For some people, this might be a laughable subject. The idea that someone can be "highly sensitive. But if you find you just might belong to this category of rare but unique people, chances are if you find yourself on a site like GoodReads that encourages one to read as much as you can, you just might be then I highly suggest giving this a look.

I've found a lot of valuable info on working with others, building relationships with others, and having a more stressless environment that allows my highly sensitive self to thrive in this book, and I highly recommend it to others who might be searching for the same peace of mind. Jan 01, Alexandra marked it as didnt-finish Shelves: DNF - Chapter 5 of I give up.

So far not what I was looking for. I know I'm not "flawed" and my self-esteem is fine. What I was hoping to find here are ways to improve interactions with others, including hopefully ways to help them understand and accept I am not like them, but not "broken" or needing to "try harder" to be more like them. This book so far has been all over the place. It's talking about "highly sensitive" to outside stimuli, but then talks about sensitivity in regards to being caring and nurturing, as if those things are the same or always go together - which is untrue.

It also paints non-HSPs in a bad light, as those prone to aggressive, even violent, behavior, uncaring about environmental issues, the evil corporate CEO, etc. Makes it sound like the author thinks all social liberals are HSPs, who are loving, nurturing, caring and peaceful people and all social conservatives are non-HSPs and evil warmongers out to destroy the environment.

Sorry, but I don't think highly sensitive introverts are all in one political box, nor do I think all those who are not sensitive to outside stimuli, or enjoy it, are all evil, uncaring, unfeeling people. This book so far is a mess. It's mixing up meanings of "sensitive" as if they're all interchangeable, and throwing in political stereotypes and even some religious new-agey stuff.

At chapter 5 the only thing remotely helpful it's said is to advise to mute commercials when watching TV as commercials are intended to be highly stimulating. Everything else so far either doesn't apply to me even though I scored high on the test included , is insulting and generalities to non-HSP people, contradictory or obviously false.

I'm giving up. I recommend The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World instead. It's much better and much more helpful in my opinion.

Nov 25, Joel rated it really liked it Shelves: Aron has caught on to the fact that some of us are more susceptible to stimulation than others. She offers a checklist of characteristics that might indicate that you are highly sensitive including Aron has caught on to the fact that some of us are more susceptible to stimulation than others.

She offers a checklist of characteristics that might indicate that you are highly sensitive including awareness of subtleties in your environment, being easily startled, having a rich inner life, being moved by the arts and music, and being sensitive to things like bright lights, loud noises, and caffeine. It's a matter of culture, she insists. And her job is to help HSPs see their promise as persons in a civilization that holds the warrior to be of greater value than the scientist.

You're a complicated being, she insists, and you should not reduce yourself to genes and systems. Here I think she has a valid point. Too often we who suffer from depression and bipolar disorder identify ourselves as our disease. If we see our destiny as hard-wired, there's not a lot we can do for ourselves.

We become little more than lab rats, testing one medication after another because the results aren't perfect. We may decide that the aim of our therapy is to numb ourselves to all pain -- a goal that we may be surprised to find is not shared by our psychiatrist or therapist.

She believes that there may be a doctor's culture which seems any kind of sensitivity as being a bad thing. I would remind her that most of us turned to doctors because the world leaned on us too hard, that being totally open and free not only got us in trouble but hurt - bad. Still, there are things about this book that make it a worthwhile read for those of us suffering from mood disorders. The world does often stimulate us beyond our sensitivities and we need to take steps to lessen that effect.

Aron points out that medications need to be seen as a safety net to keep us from going too high or too low. In no way should we see them as the way to introduce dramatic changes in our personality. Drugs or no drugs, we have an obligation to understand ourselves and to take steps to fulfill our promise as persons.

Oct 01, Holly Lindquist rated it it was ok Shelves: I remember feeling quite jazzed about this book when I first read it. After all, I was so shy that I didn't really begin to connect with my peers until late middle school. I felt overwhelmed every time I had to leave my house and whenever I was around people I was a tightly wound ball of anxiety and irritation. I always felt I was way more sensitive to nearly everything than most people, and here was a book that seemed to validate my experience and offer solutions.

Except the solutions didn't rea I remember feeling quite jazzed about this book when I first read it. Except the solutions didn't really work. I even went to a Highly-Sensitive People support group for a time. I remember almost everybody in that room spoke very softly and had nervous rumbly stomachs. There was very little eye contact. We were like a bunch of vibrating tuning forks.

It was interesting, but oddly unhelpful. I stopped going after awhile. I figured my sensitivity was something I just had to motor on with. However, my problem was something more complex than just being "highly-sensitive". I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is on the autistic spectrum. A great deal of the sensitivities described in The Highly Sensitive Person could be applied directly to a mildly autistic person. Do loud noises make you cringe into a quivering ball?

Of course. Do you sometimes feel antagonized by clothing tags? Hellz yes.

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Do you go into a tailspin when forced to socialize for too long? Well, duh. And so on and so on.. I just found about my Asperger's at age 32 and I really can't help thinking I could have used such a discovery a bit earlier in my life.. I strongly suspect that other "Aspies" have gone over this book, chalked up their many quirks to just being sensitive, and then been left in the lurch when the one-dimensional approach to a far more complicated issue fails to improve their situation.

Looking back, I suspect that several people in that support group I attended had undiagnosed Asperger's and I hope they were able to find assistance that was tailored more specifically to their needs.

So, to sum up, this book may be helpful to people who are a bit more sensitive or naturally shy, but its ambiguity may lead some in entirely the wrong direction. Finally, if you think you may be something more than just sensitive, if you're often confounded by social situations that don't faze others, or if you find yourself wondering if you're even living in the same sensory world as most people, than there is a fabulous online test for Asperger's called The Aspie Quiz.

Google it. Jul 03, Cindy rated it it was amazing. This book helped me realize what I had already suspected I was in fact a highly sensitive person. And more importantly View 2 comments.

Een fijn en goed boek. Fijn en duidelijk. Wat ik fijn vond aan dit boek: Dat er niets mis met je is, of afwijkend. Misschien wel anders, maar de ene persoon heeft het ook eerder koud dan de ander, dan is het ook niet raar dat andere prikkels bij de een anders binnen komen dan bij de ander, toch? Dit vond ik een heel fijn inzicht en een goede vergelijking.

Wat ik Een fijn en goed boek. Wat ik minder fijn vond: Dit kan per persoon natuurlijk verschillen. Feb 12, Tripleguess rated it liked it.

With a box full of books to read and only so much spare time, I've implemented a new rule of thumb; generally, if the book doesn't hook me by the first few chapters, I stop reading it and try the next one. I am a fast reader, so I don't feel I am asking too much of a book to keep me interested for twenty minutes.

This title kept me engaged for about one third of the book. After that I started skimming, and when I had to force myself to keep going I said "Hey, what's up with that, I might as well With a box full of books to read and only so much spare time, I've implemented a new rule of thumb; generally, if the book doesn't hook me by the first few chapters, I stop reading it and try the next one.

After that I started skimming, and when I had to force myself to keep going I said "Hey, what's up with that, I might as well be reading something fun. I am different. Sometimes very different. There is a question "sensitivity test" on pages xxi-xxii; I answered 22 of them positively in other words, "Yes, this bothers me". However, after the first three or four chapters, I felt that the book was repeating itself, saying the same things but merely changing the settings.

HSPs are sensitive as adolescents. HSPs are especially affected by puberty. HSPs are especially affected by trauma. HSPs are especially affected by relationships.

I have enough imagination that I don't need things spelled out for every aspect of life. Being a conservative Christian, I don't find the definite New Age slant of the book especially edifying, especially since it is not overtly acknowledged. It has some interesting ideas, but as a fairly well-adapted sensitive person I don't find that I need the extensive advice and "make sure you feel good about yourself" handpatting.

My summary: Seeking a sense of self! This illuminating read is full of profound insights, into the mind and experiences of the intuitive-sensitive being.

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If anyone so desires to feel and experience what it is like to be this --then look no further; for it's all here in front of you. With a deeply complex, bitty family history and a lifetime of living only a certain way -adjusting to juggling and harmonizing would be the greatest challenge of all!

I've explored the darkest recesses of the soul and , to all life's intensities with vigour and acute passion. Such understanding, empathy and connectivity is VITAL to an uber-sensitive soul, otherwise I can only predict a future existence of agonizing torture and exhaustion.

Looking at the light of divine reasoning, can cause temporary blindness! Jung is so right; as he quotes how discovering the question of your human life is a never-ending voyage, that's miraculous and so deeply-rooted you'll never be reluctant to turn from. If one marks highly on the emotional level, the challenges that proceed will be unquestionably of greater value.

Therefore, I'd advise caution beforehand for a rather shocking rollercoaster! Trusting this trait takes some nerve, yet is a crucial aspect in awakening the one understanding --that'll lead to an experience of insurmountable approbation.

Don't be doubtful or scared, this is meant to be; beautiful! Sep 10, Alison rated it liked it Shelves: First of all, I have to clarify for the record that The World is not, thankfully, at least at this point in my life , "overwhelming" me.

But I have often been told that I'm being "too sensitive" about a comment someone made about me And I got intrigued by this book when I saw it referenced in Oprah magazine. And I got a score that landed me in the Yes zone. So I w First of all, I have to clarify for the record that The World is not, thankfully, at least at this point in my life , "overwhelming" me. So I was intrigued and checked out the book.

Perhaps surprisingly, there's little to no discussion of that emotional sensitivity or touchiness over comments from others. Instead, Elaine Aaron's use of "sensitive" is actually "over arousal" in the nervous system: Still, much of what she discusses applies to certain aspects of my personality: If these same traits resonate with you, I think you'd definitely find this book an excellent source of food for thought.

One thing I couldn't help wondering, however, and maybe it's because I'm one of the more internal consider-ers she talks about, rather than a "warrior king" type was whether the concept of sensitivity was being used too widely as a kind of blanket cop-out.

In other words, I know I tire easily after being around people too much, and need restorative alone time, despite the fact that I might seem like a social butterfly on the outside , and I know that I have a low tolerance for doing B. And I would LOVE to be able to claim that I have a legitimate, neuro-scientific cause for these traits--I could justify needing a nap every day and needing to not hate my job!

But I worried that perhaps there was maybe a little bit too much "feel good about yourself for being a special HSP! Seriously, who does have a high tolerance for doing a job that isn't meaningful? At the same time, each chapter raised at least one point I either hadn't considered before, or had considered at length but in some other context. So I think it's worth a read if you take the quiz and any of the personality traits apply to you.

Well, now I've been too "aroused" by dealing with all you people and need to go take a nap. May 29, Dejana rated it really liked it. I learned that not only nothing is wrong with me because I am "too sensitive", and that I don't need to develop a "thick skin", but that being highly sensitive is a gift that I should be proud of. Apr 03, Sara Shakouri rated it it was ok Shelves: This book has a soothing tone of an adult talking to a firghtened child.

I could understand that. I had been there too: So when the book started with stories of people terrified about losing their sanity, and the author threw in the nonsense about "royal-adviser class" I thought I can understand why she is doing this, although I This book has a soothing tone of an adult talking to a firghtened child. So when the book started with stories of people terrified about losing their sanity, and the author threw in the nonsense about "royal-adviser class" I thought I can understand why she is doing this, although I could not stop myself from chuckling.

But that is not the way to write a book, if you want it to have a passable scientific base. Early on, Dr. Aron claims that HSPs are different people, because their nervous systems proceeds input data differently. Nowhere in the book you can find any more explanations: This lack of scientific approach can be observed in many minor cases HSP maybe sensitive to coffee, but then they may be not.

Aron was having only a fraction of HSPs IF such label can exist, which should be left to the hands of experts to decide in mind: I looked forward to use some tips to cope with unpleasant situations say a co-worker turning pages of his notebook too loudly, making me as irritated as hell , but there seems to be very little fitting with me. I she says about is being overwhelmed by a situation, following a general solution of love yourself, embrace yourself, protect yourself from the world.

I can still have difficulty accepting the analogy between an infant and an HSP, and most of the book is based on this idea. However, it has some good points for raising your children, HSP or not. Jul 22, Christine Lloyd rated it really liked it. I'm a lot happier after reading this book, not because it changed me but because it gave me the language to talk about my quirks and the confidence to be OK with them. However, as somebody on the sensitive end of the spectrum, I've spent a lot of time frustrated by my inability to deal with long parties with strangers, loud concerts with bright light effects, and a I'm a lot happier after reading this book, not because it changed me but because it gave me the language to talk about my quirks and the confidence to be OK with them.

However, as somebody on the sensitive end of the spectrum, I've spent a lot of time frustrated by my inability to deal with long parties with strangers, loud concerts with bright light effects, and all-day festivals.

These are all things that make my friends so happy, and while I enjoy them for the first hour or four, I'm almost always miserable by the end. I've spent so much mental energy trying to "fix" myself so that I'm able to do things like go the state fair for the day, and I've been entirely without success.

Instead, and with prompting from this book, I've been learning when to say "enough," when to tell everybody "I've had a fantastic time, and I need to head home now. Love you! It's a really easy simple fix, but it took reading most of this book for me to be OK with implementing it. So yes, interesting in its own right and a total lifesaver for me specifically. Jul 09, Meg rated it liked it. This book describes that percentage of the population whose systems are easily over stimulated by sensory information.

Wow, do I wish someone had given me this book to read, like, 10 years ago. The criticisms: I found this irritating.Now I know why I can be such an introvert even though I love being around If you have ever felt like life is too overwhelming and all you want to do is crawl into a cave and hide away from it all, this book might be for you. Apr 20, Ruth rated it really liked it Shelves: Though I enjoy a party every now and then, I do prefer one-on-one conversations and time spent reading books and listening to Ariana Grande.

She offers a checklist of characteristics that might indicate that you are highly sensitive including awareness of subtleties in your environment, being easily startled, having a rich inner life, being moved by the arts and music, and being sensitive to things like bright lights, loud noises, and caffeine. I appreciate how Aron frames sensitivity as a trait that carries both strengths and weaknesses, as any facet of an individual does. Dat er niets mis met je is, of afwijkend. Horowitz is a very trusted doctor in this field and has treated more than 13, Lyme patients.

It's talking about "highly sensitive" to outside stimuli, but then talks about sensitivity in regards to being caring and nurturing, as if those things are the same or always go together - which is untrue. Do loud noises make you cringe into a quivering ball? Viewing sensitivity as an inherent trait, rather than a character flaw has changed how I feel about myself.

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